In the book, The
7 Habits of High Effective People by Stephen R. Covey, the fourth habit is
titled, “Think Win/Win.” He writes,
“Win/Win is a frame of mind and heart that
constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions. Win/Win means that
agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial, mutually satisfying. With a
Win/Win solution, all parties feel good about the decision and feel committed
to the action plan,”
This book is not the Bible, but there’s truth there
that’s important for us. Win/Win is never always possible, nor is it always the
best solution, but if it can be achieved, then it just feels right, and we usually find God's grace smiling down at us.
And with that in mind, I turn to Ezra 4:1-5.
1 When the enemies of Judah and
Benjamin heard that the exiles were building a temple for the LORD, the God of
Israel, 2 they came to Zerubbabel and to the heads of the
families and said, “Let us help you build because, like you, we seek your God
and have been sacrificing to him since the time of Esarhaddon king of Assyria,
who brought us here.”
3 But Zerubbabel, Joshua and the rest
of the heads of the families of Israel answered, “You have no part with us in
building a temple to our God. We alone will build it for the LORD, the God of
Israel, as King Cyrus, the king of Persia, commanded us.”
4 Then the peoples around them set out
to discourage the people of Judah and make them afraid to go on building. 5 They
bribed officials to work against them and frustrate their plans during the
entire reign of Cyrus king of Persia and down to the reign of Darius king of
Persia.
Ezra comes from the period of the return of the
exiles from the land of Babylon. The Jews have been away for 50 years and now,
by God’s grace, they have been given permission to return to their homeland
with the task of restoring their temple in Jerusalem. And so with their
governor Zerubbabel leading them, they entered Jerusalem. But when they
arrived, rather than finding an empty and desolate land, they found that
people, foreigners and mixed races were living in the land, for the last 50
years!
They are labeled as “enemies of Judah” (v.1), but I
think that’s harsh. They approach these outsiders who have come to take away
their land and their request is simply, “We see that you guys are here to
restore your religion. Great! Let us help
you build.” The locals have been interested in the Jewish religion and in
their own way, have been worshiping the Jewish God with sacrifices (v.2)! And rather
than opposing these legal invaders to their land (they are carrying the king’s
edict to legally confiscate the land), they decided that they would extend a
hand of friendship along with a gracious plea to allow them to join in the
worship of the God of heaven and earth. They sought a Win/Win. And if the
returning Jews had agreed, this could have been a great example of a Win/Win
situation told and preached many times over. But that wasn’t what happened. Governor
Zerubbabel and the Jews felt that they had the legal right and so had the upper
hand. And they didn’t want a Win/Win.
There is obvious tension between the two sides and,
I think, a legitimate claims to ownership by both. The locals have been living
in the land for several generations. The new people have come with claims
backed by the official letter. And in this situation, I think some compromise
was needed – this could surely have been a Win/Win with many Win/Wins to come!
But the returning Jews reply negatively, “you have no part with us in building a
temple to our God. We alone will build it for the Lord.” He is OUR God.
It’s true that the returning Jews were adamant in
their desire for purity and separation. Priest Ezra demanded it forcefully. And
so there was pretention of spirituality and seeking God’s will, but in this
case, I think they were wrong. I believe deep down, they were masking their
hatred of other races and people, and declaring on their own that God only
loves them. Only they can worship God! They must win; others must lose.
The locals were humiliated in their offer of peace
and goodwill. In their anger, they opposed the building of the temple (vv.4-23)
so that at v.24, “Thus the work on the
house of God in Jerusalem came to a standstill” for 14 long years. It resulted
in a Lose/Lose. No one won in the end – and worship of God was ruined in the
process.
And how many times have we seen this played out in
our own lives – in politics, in churches, in our homes? In the end, the worship
of God is ruined for all sides.
Good Morning,
ReplyDeleteI see I am not the only one getting an early start in honoring God. Daniel Webster once said, "The most important thought I ever had was that of my individual responsibility to God." So as I read your writing, I realized how important it is to understand our short existance on this side in preparation for the eternal existance on the other side. In the end, hope to meet you there.
Proverbs 1:7, "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; but fools despise wisdom and instructions." In the
Fellow Sojourner, I see.
DeleteGod's blessing to you. It's the great temptation of us all to put on the mask of spirituality over our sinfulness. I sin all the time.
What about the New Testament, Pastor Jin? Where it says that Jesus tells that we are to "LOSE OUR LIVES" not to win??? just wondering.
ReplyDeleteBut, I hear ya, somehow, I think I have been going through this dilemma personally (that is what you blogged about) I think I just had to believe that Jesus is FOR me. But y'know it's so hard to believe that when all I may want to be is a 'good person'. To be honest, I hated the instruction from Jesus, and I couldn't obey it all the time. I think it takes unity, protection, somehow.........Sovereign LORD has to be in control.
I think it has to do with the issue of hatred vs. love...Can one or all discern in community or organized society the love of God. i.e. the will of God. That will only result in God's Kingdom being built and not destroyed. Do you think there are martyrs still today? And what about suicide's causes?
I really like what you wrote about. It reminds me of someone important in my life that displays this attitude OFTEN. And this WIN/WIN situation is AWESOME.
THANKS so much for this message/blog. I really needed this reminder and pray that it penetrates into my life as an individual and also on a corporately united level of existence when I need it in a community sense of existence.
I'd like to close doors to all existence of the disposition of hatred or discord within the church members or body within or without ~ Heavenly Father.
Julia,
DeleteLots of thoughts flowing out of your mind, I see. I didn't write more here, because I don't like long entries, but I would have written the second part: How can we Win/Win?
1) We need to understand that we are sinners and God is God. Both sides need to come before the Almighty with heads bowed.
2) We also need to admit that our intentions cannot be fully trusted. Our motivations are covered in sweet spiritual languages, but we must admit there is fear and doubt and hurt feelings that cloud our judgment.
3) And with those things laid on the table, we can seek to win/win.
Hope this helps.